We all have problems. Problems that seem to be so overwhelming they stop us dead in our tracks. Whether it is in the form of an opponent, an injury, disappointing results, business stress or school we confront things that won't align with what we want.
In our practice we say "The Tao is in returning," by this we mean to return to the source. Another way to look at this is that when we are taken 'away' from the source in times of hardship, we become the problem that lies in front of us. Our motivations drive our actions. When examining this it's important to remember our reasons letting those shape our path. Selfish reasons lead to a selfish life focused on fear and scarcity. Unselfish reasons build a fruitful life because they operate out of fearlessness and solid abundance. Live keeping unselfish reasons close to your heart, and it'll assist you in overcoming failure.
The second part to the above saying is that "Returning lies in daily decreasing not in the accumulation of many things" This supports the idea that selfless living is what practicing the Tao is all about! Living in this way is what will always build you and others by solidifying the foundation that everyone operates from. How do we live selflessly and still accomplish our goals?
There's a Tai Chi Principle that helps me overcome failure. Everytime I repeat it to myself I find new and fresh applications... To me this embodies a selfless approach let's explore it together.
Stand like a perfectly balanced scale,
and move like a turning wheel.
Sinking to one side allows movement to flow;
being double-weighted is sluggish.
Anyone who has spent years of practice and still cannot neutralize, and is always controlled by his opponent, has not apprehended the fault of double-weightedness.
To avoid this fault one must distinguish yin from yang
-The Treatise on Tai Chi Chuan: Wang ZongYue
This quote reminds me to keep the path. Not to get discouraged by circumstances, and setbacks rather let your experience support you to build greater things. To stare into the eyes of minor failures we stop seeing the bigger picture. For example, staring at the failure we refuse to see a different choice, and more importantly we lose sight of trying something different. This is being selfishly stuck in our own notions to deter this I find the first line reflected by keeping an observant mind. This is what is meant by "Stand like a perfectly balanced scale"
In light of any and all failures the world moves on, so too we must "move like a turning wheel, sinking to one side allowing movement to flow." The stream of life continues to flow, even when the rock is in front of it. The "double-weighted" rock is worn away by the flow of the stream. Again a reminder to let go of small failures because they are simple steps to teach you of your path. A part of the whole, a mirror to show you what's effective (yang) and ineffective (yin) the entire picture of these distinctions is what we should keep our minds open to. In this way we apprehend our faults and avoid future ones.
Dissolve your stubbornness, let go of your need to have everything in the right way or for you to be the one to do it and more often you'll solve the fault of double weightedness. Be open, be bold my friends + you can do anything you want by sinking to the side of your vision. In letting go of the specificity of what you want it to be it will morph into something far more inspiring and empowering than what you may be able to currently see. Standing as a perfectly balanced scale the wheel of the world turns around our central hub allow the movement of our circumstances and results to flow.
I love you my friends! Lets look past our failures today and live into possibilities!
Daniel R. Hyde
Licensed Massage Therapist
OIF, OEF Veteran
U.S. Marine Corps
Kwan Ying Do Kung Fu
Tai Chi Chuan
Tui Na, Chinese Massage
Shiatsu, Japanese Massage